Monday, September 29, 2014

Mastering YOU, life and change oh my!

Betcha thought I'd never come back to and me both! Wow! I’ve never taken a five month hiatus from my blog before; needless to say, I’ve missed writing, but most importantly…I’ve missed y’all!!! I must admit though, I stayed away from anything dealing with blogging while I was away. Pretty much off of social media as well.  Life just kinda gets like that sometimes…ya know.

 Sooo much has happened since I’ve been away. Let’s see…I turned 46, I had two being major(I’ll talk more about that in my next blog post), had my 2nd bloggaversary sometime in June…IKR, we closed on our church building, God opened phenomenal doors for us –ministry and personal,  our youngest graduated from high school and went off to college AND my mother-in-law suddenly and unexpectedly passed away! So, I guess you can say I’ve gone through a range of emotions over the past few months!  I’ve said all that as a segue to my blog post dealing with a constant we all will encounter in our lives…change.

In this life change is inevitable. I should know – we just dropped our youngest off at college. Yes, the last little birdie to fly the coup! Might I add… we’ve done this same routine twice before with our oldest and middle children - 7 and 5 years ago.  But, it’s something about letting go of the “baby”  that makes this whole change thing, but nonetheless…a change is gonna come!

Seeing as if change comes in our lives, albeit at our welcoming or disdain, I surmise the best thing to do is to just go with the flow…it always makes things easier….it really does!

As I, along with the other seven dorm/suite mothers, happily went about making our sons’ beds…while explaining to them how not to let anything touch the floor because you just don’t know what the previous tenant had(knowing that it all fell on deaf ears as they were all too eager getting to know one another). Now, where was I…oh yeah, hanging their clothes in the closet, neatly folding their clothes in the drawer(don’t even ask), disinfecting their bathrooms and spraying everything in sight with an inch layer of Lysol! I know, pathetic right! My husband said he watched in amazement - not only at the fact that he realized ALL mothers in the universe were exactly alike, but he realized how much I was in my element and how I was anointed and graced to mother.  Wow, what an awesome compliment! Here I was, some 25 years deep into doing this “mothering” thing and it suddenly hit me…that was where my element was all along. Teaching, disciplining, but most of nurturing my babies! Just to get them to this place…becoming self sufficient adults. SN...*rest assured moms moms and dads.  All those times you THOUGHT your job wasn’t important or what you said to them and did for them were all in vain; do know that all of the time spent is a seed sown towards a BIG harvest on one of your greatest investments…your children*! And as we drove off, leaving our baby boy behind to make grown-up decisions without our input and to go about his everyday tasks with people he didn’t know…I realized at that very moment my role as mother was about to take a dramatic shift.

Walking away from his dorm suite. Driving away from his dorm. In other words..."letting go". :-)

 But you know what? Surprising everyone –including myself (because I sure had envisioned the whole scene in my mind of how I would be crying unconsolably (there and back) and the family would have to put me to bed because I would be too outdone)...pretty dramatic right? But nope, instead I smiled, knowing that it was all going to be okay. And you know what? Here it is a month or so later and we have totally adjusted…with no qualms whatsoever!! And it didn't hurt that God blessed him with a roommate with his personality. God is absolutely AMAZING that way! I realized in that very moment two things...for the past 25 years, all the time I had invested in nurturing my children was about to pay off…one way or another AND my number one task on this earth was mothering and everything else God allowed me to do was considered a blessing and icing on the cake!

I now see that as a 46 year old, my burning desire to write wasn’t me being all over the place with my emotions, a fluke or some mid-life crisis! Nope, not at all. It was God unleashing the vision and passion He had growing and hiding and refining deep within my belly - waiting for that right moment (which is now) when my lifelong assignment would - not so much change - but merely take a different more scenic route, as a mother’s job is never completed…right? BUT, most importantly, it was Him preparing me for the upcoming season of change, so I wouldn’t (as many of us find ourselves during a transition) have feelings of unimportance or worse…uselessness. With that being said, I encourage you to not quench or dispel those feelings of adventuresome and passion. It just may be God depositing something in you to prepare you for the next assignment in life. Besides, when one assignment has been completed...if you're not in the grave...there's another one waiting around the corner for you! So embrace that change and new venture (that will inevitably happen) with a merry heart, knowing that it’s all a part of the circle of life and God’s unfailing plan! Btw…it sure feels good to be back!!  Ecclesiastes 3:1, Jeremiah 29:11

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Monday, April 7, 2014

Mastering YOU EUREKA moment(I'm baaack)

Ahhh...this feels good - writing on my blog again! You know it's been 41 days since I put finger to keyboard(concerning this space). 

While I was out, it dawned on me the last time I punched someone’s time card was when I was 4 months pregnant(18 years ago) with our youngest child. There's a reason for that - deep down inside I know I was never made to work for someone else or something else for that matter. It’s not in my blood or makeup.  My father has owned his own business (which he inherited from his father) since the day I came into this world 46 years ago.  My husband comes from the same background…generations of entrepreneurs. Stick with me, I'm going somewhere with this! I said all of that as a segue to what I really learned while I was on my blogging break.

I must admit, I haven’t visited this place since I signed off a little over a month ago. I won't felt good! I missed everyone -  but I didn’t miss blogging per say(well, at least everything that comes along with it). I didn’t miss freaking out when I couldn’t make my deadline(because I had writers block). I didn’t miss making sure I joined every blog hop in the bloggersphere to get new followers(who more than likely won’t ever come back). Well actually I stopped doing that months ago (I wanted to add it here to make my statement more profound) – we bloggers do that you know. Lol! Neither did I miss constantly checking my Google analytics, finding the latest SEO tricks of the trade, trying to get high page ranks, etc., etc. Lord knows that’s a job in itself and ain’t nobody got time for that…well at least not me! And for those of you who do it, do know I’m not knocking you. Do ya thing! More power to you! But for me, I realized that blogging was not my side hustle and probably will never be. I’ll be 46 years old next month. Why on earth would I become a slave to a blog? I mean really? I started to loathe it just like an employee would an employer who’s asking for more than they’re willing to give and not willing to compensate them for. Yep, I had gotten there y’all…hating MY BLOG! But how? This was my baby, the thing I started from scratch…from the ground up - that has my fingerprint and DNA all over it…and I hated it! Man, something had to change and change quickly

You see, while I was out, I went back to my purpose for blogging in the first place – to give advice to those who wanted it and to love on and encourage those who needed it. That’s it. Nothing more…nothing less. This blog is my ministry. Something my husband and I have been doing full time for over 18 years now. And something we see ourselves doing until the Lord calls us Home. That my friends, is where my joy lies! Helping, encouraging, loving on and being a blessing to anyone who wants it. Yep, that’s MY happy! And when it’s time for me to hang my hat up on this blogging thing…I’ll know it and I’ll do it. Until then, this is a place where all my friends can come to and know what you’re going to get. No pretense and no “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours”. Nope, none of that here. Just a genuine desire to be a blessing and to make a God connection with those I may never see in person, but have grown to love and appreciate nonetheless. 

Yeah, I might have missed out on all the giveaways, opportunities to gain more followers and grow my social media base, but you know…it really doesn’t matter. Life is so good to me right now and I've got so much on my plate to even care! Sure, I may do some giveaways, grow my social media following and heck even join a few blog hops here and there - however, it won’t be because I HAVE to…it’ll be because I WANT to! And when it's time for me to take another break(which may be once a month now, lol) then I will. And if my FB fan page stays at 910(give or take), that’s fine too. If it surpasses the 1000 mark, hey I’ll take that also!! Don't get me wrong, I am sooo appreciative of the growth of my blog, considering the effort -or lack thereof- I've put into it. For that my wonderful friends, I owe YOU a BIG thank you! Who knows, “Prowess and Pearls” could one day become a household name(hey, whatcha laughin’ at…it could happen you know)!! But, I’m not going to jump through hoops and pull teeth to get there. People will follow me and come visit me because they want to and they genuinely like me and like what I have to say. And that my friends, makes this blogging thing a breeze, makes it easy as breathing air… 

And I'll do it at my own pace, because this space the vision God gave me!

The Pulliam household has been doing this thing called "life", BIG these past few months. A few years back, I couldn't have imagined having this much fun, as I dreaded this upcoming season in my life(my second half of living). Having spent my entire adulthood raising babies, taking care of my family and working in ministry full-time, I had a hard time seeing exactly what my future held once the kids were grown and my responsibilities as "household manager", slowly declined. I can truly say though, that my husband and I are having more fun NOW living than we've had our entire lives! No slight to our kids, because I LOVED my season of raising and nurturing them! But now they are embarking on doing what their dad and I did what seemed liked eons ago - carving their own futures, mapping out their lives and starting their own families. And that is all a mother wants for her babies(well, aside from being happy and healthy and safe from hurt, harm and danger) to name a few! :-) I guess the older you get, the more wisdom you acquire. With that acquired wisdom comes the acceptance and appreciation of the life that's been handed to us. With that acceptance and appreciation comes the ability to make of it more than what you'd ever imagine!

So I encourage ALL of you my friends…go back to the vision God gave you for your blog, your first love of why you started blogging in the first place. Because you love to write, because you love sharing and because you love giving advice to make someone’s life better. If you follow everyone else's lead and not your own...then how unique are you? If you find yourself in the corner pulling your hair out and fretting over this blogging may want to re-evaluate why you got into it in the first place. This goes for anything in your life!  I admonish you to do what you love, but most importantly…love what you do! If you’re not experiencing either of the two…go back to the drawing board and recreate the plan! Love you  and I’m so glad to back!

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Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Farewell...well, at least for now

Hey my sweet blogging friends! Some of you have probably wondered where I’ve been…I assure you I’m still alive! :-)

I want to first start off by saying how much I appreciate each and every one of you! Back in January I mentioned the thought of hanging up my blogging hat for good, but decided not to do that...and I'm glad I did! But, I’ve found myself overwhelmed with life yet again…nothing bad at all. As a matter of fact, it's great awesome, as a result...I've got a full plate(not that I'm complaining)!! The months of March, April and May have always been busy months for our family, but this year…we've got many irons in the fire.

Monday, February 17, 2014

Mastering YOU Monday...parenting 101

I was saying to myself just last week how I should post some more about parenting. Would you know, I was watching "Morning Joe" this morning - well actually I was sleeping in and my husband came into the bedroom to tell me to turn the t.v. to "MJ". Anywho, I was intrigued by their guest Jennifer Senior, author of "All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood". Obviously, I've had my head in the sand when it came to this book as I

Monday, February 10, 2014

Mastering YOU much is too much?

I know I'm a week late, but how many of you watched the final episode of "The Biggest Loser" last week? If you didn't, I don't know how you missed it... it was plastered all over the news last week. Anywho, the finale is what prompted this week's "Mastering YOU Monday" post. BTW...Am I the ONLY person out there who watches the "BL" so I don't feel guilty about eating a big plate of food? Justifying my overindulgence by saying in the back of my mind..."oh, I'll never get THAT big"!

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Doing YOU WELL Wednesday #48 and happy birthday mommy

an encouragement link up
Happy Wednesday everyone! Hope your week has been wonderful! Today's "DYWW" is dedicated to my lovely mother Mary Lee Brown Flemming, who would have celebrated her 71st birthday today! I sure do miss that lady!! Here's a post I wrote last year commemorating what would have been her 70th birthday. You can read "A Legacy of Grace" HERE. For those of you who know me, y'all know that I write letters to my mommy all the time, lol! 

I'm "doing well" because I can finally celebrate my mother's life without getting sad. I've been blessed with

Monday, February 3, 2014

Mastering YOU Monday...mind over matter

comparing natural birth to an epidural birth
Okay, so my post today was inspired by a conversation I had with my daughter the other day...out of all things...childbirth, IKR! Quite ironic, considering she's not planning on giving us grand kids anytime soon. But I'll save that for another post.

Not quite sure how the conversation started, but I'm glad it did, because I wanted to throw my two cents into the bucket

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Doing YOU WELL Wednesday #47 and a snow day

encouragement link up and a snow day
Now you know I couldn't pass up on the "2014 Southern Winter Snow storm/Blizzard/Ice storm" bandwagon right!? Lol! Seriously, hope none of you got stuck, stranded or grounded like so many I know in the Atlanta area...horror stories!

We South Carolinians had it pretty good though. Our snow didn't arrive until around 8 or 9pm Tuesday evening. But we had to wait until morning to get a good look at it and boy was it beautiful! What I love about the snow here in the south as opposed to snow in the north(where I lived for about 8 years AND I don't miss

Monday, January 27, 2014

Mastering YOU Monday...lessons I've learned

lessons learned using Godly wisdom throughout my marriage
As some of you may know, my husband and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary! If you asked me 25 years ago where I would be today…I couldn’t promise you I’d be here.  Why? Because our marriage was definitely NOT the conventional one! 

You see, I met my husband on Oct 14, 1988, the first month really didn’t count(because, as he puts it, I detested him), lol. However, I  have a different opinion!

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Doing YOU WELL Wednesday #46 and a few changes

encouragement link up and introduction of my new interior decorating pageHi everyone!! Did I throw you off with my new schedule! For anyone who didn't know, the "DYWW" link-up will now go live by 9:30pm EST on Wednesdays! 

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