Yikes! What a situation. Good for her for loving children who need it so much.
Yes Bekah, it is! I agree...kudos to her for giving of herself! Thanks for stopping by!
I LOVE how you answer the hard questions, Michell! You have a beautiful gift for helping people through. You are a true woman of gold! Love you!!
Awww, love you too Ash!! To God be the glory girl! :-) Thanks so much for dropping by...have a blessed evening!
You are such a blessing.
Thank you Denise, as are you my sweet friend!
Oh what an incredibly difficult situation this precious servant has before her...Your wisdom is spot on Michell!! I would go so far as to say that if this kind lovely woman has the children with her, she could possibly help get them a counselor to help them deal with the emotional issues their mom has brought on them. Even if it's through her church...? I would definitely be talking to that mom and giving her TRUTH. It may not change anything, if she is stuck in her selfish ways- but it gives you new ground to go on to set firm boundaries around her seeing the kids.
Oh yes Chris, I'm sure it is! I agree, with so many factors playing into this situation, counseling for everyone involved should definitely be considered. Given her background, boundaries must be set or she's likely to go renegade. Thanks so much for stopping by and chiming my friend...have a wonderful week! :-)
Your advice is absolute perfect..
THANK YOU Ren!! ;-)
Loved how you answered this. Poor Tom. :( I hate it when kids have to be the parent because the parents act like KIDS. I think this reader does need to say something and introduce some firm boundaries to Tom's mom in order to better protect Tom. She needs to give REAL, specific examples of how it affects Tom when the mom "unloads" on him. Your advice is always superb. XOXO, Meredith
Thanks Meredith!! I know, that gets on my nerves too! And we wonder why society is like it is...you literally have kids raising their parents! I agree...she definitely needs a.reality.check! Thanks for stopping by darlin'! ;-) XOXO
Hi Michell! I have to commend this Mom for accepting these children into her home. That is such a leap of faith and so generous. And her asking you for help just shows how aware she is, and how much she wants to help. Wouldn't it be amazing if we were all like her?Getting professional help is always such a great idea. For her, and for Tom. I feel bad that it's up to her to confront Mom, but if she is going to accept Tom, it really does fall to her. I'll be praying for this situation. You gave great advice, Michell.Ceil
Hi Ceil! Yes, she is a true servant isn't she! So glad she asked the question, as she ended up getting support and confirmation from you all that she's doing the right thing! Thanks for stopping by...have a blessed evening lady! ;-)
Wow. That is a difficult situation. I agree that if Not his mommy is the taking care of Tom, all bets are off...however wisdom in dealing with his mommy is certainly needed. God will surely granted, it, like you said, we ask. My heart goes out to Tom and not his mommy because both of them are being impacted by this. It's sad that she has to even deal with a situation like this after taking those boys into her home and loving on the. That should be rewarded with gratitude and support. My two cents... everything you said ;)
Bless her for taking those two children in! What a difficult situation but your advice is great, Michell. I can't even begin to imagine trying to deal with that, but I guess you find the strength to do what you need to do!
I agree with Michelle - bless this woman for taking on two children and I totally agree with you - that with taking on the kids she is essentially taking on the family with them - and she needs to speak what she sees. No skirting issues. Speak with truth for those kids is speaking the truth for herself. I love that you take letters like this one and give biblically based advice.
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