Contrary to what you may have been told, a man’s ego is a very fragile thing. I know, I know, they are considered the stronger vessel in the relationship, but never forget (just as women) they have feelings too! Every time we tell him how he didn’t do something right(and that we can do it better), look at him with disdain if he says or does something WE deem to be stupid, or scold him as if he’s some child…we chip away at his ego bit by bit, until we look up one day and realize all we have left is a shell of a man...and wonder what happened, really now?
Some of us have done it for so long, we don’t even recognize we’re doing it, but everyone else around us sees it; which puts them in an awkward position. Whenever I see this, I cringe with disgust. He walks away dejected with his head down, wondering if anyone saw what just occurred, while she carries on as if she’s done the female “society” some great big favor by putting her man in his place! Hmmm...no ma'am, I think not! I don’t care how you dress it up ladies, just as WE are; men are going to love what is lovely to them! If you were in a relationship with someone who was treating you badly and using you as a doormat, you wouldn't stay around much too long. So why do we expect the men in our lives to put up with something we wouldn't tolerate? Sounds crazy right? That's because it is! I call it the "arrogosis" syndrome...an attitude that swings the pendulum between arrogance and psychosis. Listen, I'm not coming down on you ladies, but I've seen too many relationships go downhill(when they didn't have to), because we didn't hold up our end of the relationship. As I often tell people, the only part of a relationship we're responsible for is "our" part. Remember, this series is all about us mastering "ourselves", not anyone else. A healthy relationship should consist of two people who honor and respect each other. Anything outside of that isn't a relationship at all.
You do the math. If a man is not shown the honor that goes with his position, then he WILL NOT lead correctly! There's nothing worse than a misguided unit. If the head of any corporation isn't confident in his leadership position because the people on his team aren't supportive and offering encouragement...I can guarantee you that'll be a corporation that will soon fall apart. Because of her disobedience, God told Eve in Genesis 3:16(part B), “Your desire shall be for your husband”. Many people misinterpret that as "we will long for our husbands". No, it actually means we will want to covet our husband's position. So it translates...“Your desire shall be to rule(dominate) your husband”. These aren’t Michell’s words; these are God’s words! To want our husband’s role of leadership is so NOT the will of God ladies! It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that if it’s not the will of God, then obviously it’s something we SHOULDN’T be doing. It’s not whether I can do a better job than my husband, it’s about walking in the ROLE God gave ME! Remember ladies...as much as it may ruffle your turkey feathers; God doesn't give a flying kite about whether you can do your husband's job better than he can. It's better that your husband’s job be done IMPERFECTLY by him, than be done PERFECTLY by you! So stop micromanaging the men in your lives and let God do His perfect work with him, just as He's doing with you! Ask God today to free you from the curse of Eve in EVERY area of your life and seek Godly wisdom concerning your relationship! God’s girls know how to stay in their lane…vroom vroom!
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